On Writing: Stitches and Burns

I maybe a masochist but that is fine; because I know what kind of pain can kill me. You however, are a sadist. You keep on hurting me -- and you are breaking me into pieces.

People have different propensity to pain – physical or emotional. I consider myself at the higher tolerance level of this grid. So when I begin to cocoon myself, you have really hurt me good.

However, there are also two kinds of people – the people who hurt you but they do not matter and the others who do. For the first type, I usually just shrug them off. They are not worth my time anyway. The second one is the hardest to ignore – people who matter – close friends, family, loved ones. It is hard to ignore because of the deposits you have invested in the emotional bank account. Yet, they keep on taking you for granted and depleting whatever “emotional funds” you have put in.

No one is perfect. Even I have my own share of both intentional and accidental grievances. However, when epiphany comes, I DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Because at the end of the day, I do not want to hurt the people who are important to me.

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On Writing: My Pursuit for Happy-ness

"A happiness project is an approach to changing your life." -The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin

A month ago, I read this book from Regina Brett about Life's Little Detours. It talked about finding and holding on to happiness. No, I am not here to talk philosophically what happiness is all about or preach happiness is a choice or what-not. What I really want to share is this longing I have to improve my perspective in life. 

I have always been a happy person. Internally, that is. I seem all grunge and angst outside but generally, I have always been happy. I am happy with everything that has turned out in every aspect of my life - work, love, family, friends. 

So why engage myself on this happiness project? 

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