"You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don't know it, all of that doesn't even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It's not like you have forever, so don't waste any of your seconds, don't throw even one of your moments away." - C. Joybell C.
I grew up (that happened only several years ago) with a confidence of knowing myself, what I am capable of (and things I shy away from), who I really am and who I am not. The best thing about knowing myself is being able to move on and let go when things are just not meant for me.
I have heard people say bad things about me -- about the way I work, how I am as a subordinate, as a boss, as a friend. I make it a conscious effort to exhale all the negative things people say about me especially those who are irrelevant in my life. The things that I take by heart are the criticisms (or feedback) I get from my loved ones, my real friends, my teammates, the people who I closely work and interact with.
For me particularly, this effort has been one of the most rewarding for my happiness project. We cannot please everyone. At the end of the day, it is you and you alone who can say if you have really given it your all. It should only be you who should shape future based on introspection and careful evaluation of oneself; not based on what other people want or what other people say.
What other people say about you is not your reality. So when you do a good job, do not wait for anyone to commend you. Don't make recognition from other people be the pillar of your success. Instead, pat yourself on the back and give yourself a star for every little achievement every day. Be your own admirer and at the same time, your own challenger. But remember, be gentle with yourself.
Why wait for other people to give you an ego boost. Know your worth and celebrate it.
xx,
Corporate Junkie
