Have you ever met extremely rude people who do not realize how their lack of tact is offensive to other people? What's worse is that they do not even know that they are rude and genuinely wonder (and feel oppressed) why many people do not like them.
I have met very few of this kind of people in my life and that is the reason why I remember them. So for my first volume of Friday's Five, check out these awesome comments that just riled me up and let me know what you think!
1. "Ganda mo sana, taba lang mukha mo." (Roughly translated: You are beautiful but you have such a fat face (or chubby cheeks, whatever)).
Okay... if this came from a really close friend, or my best friend, or my husband, I wouldn't mind. I mean, their honesty can be brutal but you know that there is an underlying sense of love. But from an acquaintance or someone you are not even remotely close with?! Seriously?! Why give a compliment when you would have an insult attached to it?! And of course, it does not really help if the person who said this to you is even fatter than you are. Lady, get a mirror and do some reality check, puh-lease!
2. "I do not want that to ever happen to me." (Said someone after I shared my miscarriage story to her.)
What?! Seriously, I could not even start explaining which part of this remark is wrong. Such a brainfart. Ugh!
3. "You are petite lang pala noh." (In a condescending tone.)
I usually do not mind being told I am "small". It is a fact of life that I have accepted with grace and rectified with my 4-inch and 5-inch heels. But sometimes, it is not the thought which is offensive. It is the manner on how it is said. And yes, this came from someone who is barely taller than I am. Ridiculous!
4. Bakit ayaw nyo pa magkababy? (Why don't you want a baby yet?)
A lot of still childless, married couples are asked this question by colleagues, friends and even family. Newsflash, people! If a married couple does not have a child yet, it can only mean two things: (1) it is not yet in their plans; (2) they are having a hard time having a baby.
If a married couple does not have a child yet, it can only mean two things: (1) it is not yet in their plans; (2) they are having a hard time having a baby.
First reason. There are couples who are not yet ready to have a baby. Maybe they are enjoying each other's company first or trying to build a more stable environment first for the little angels in the future. I have even met a couple who didn't want to have children.
Next reason is something that I can personally relate to. I am not the sensitive type so in my case, this is not a problem. I will gladly share with you about the reason why I do not have a baby yet (because I can't and not that I don't want to). However, I know that there are others like me who feel hurt and offended being asked this question. Couples having fertility, reproductive or immunological disorders didn't want to be in this situation. It is frustrating enough to be in this situation so please, I beg you, don't add insult to a deep injury.
5. And lately, on quitting work. "Nagquit ka para lang magkababy?!" (You've quit [work] just to have a baby?!)
Okay. This, I don't know. I think some people are just misinformed. But yes, there are people who are different from you - who, quite unfortunately, cannot pop a baby as easy as 1-2-3. There is this segment in this population where I belong where wives have to to give up a wonderful career because they need to. Not all pregnancies are the same. So, either you say something nice (Hint: I admire your courage!) or like what our mommas always say: If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!
If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!
In most of these cases, I just usually avoid these kinds of people after getting a vibe of how they are. I have learned from Bo Sanchez' talk several years back that your life will be much simple if you focus or control the things inside your circle of influence. So since I could not possibly control what these toxic people say, I just stay away from them. Your life won't be any less colorful without leeches like these sucking the color out of your day.
How about you, loves? Have you encountered these kinds of people? How do you deal with them?
xx,
Balot
Blogger's Note: I have resolved to do a Friday's Five on well, obviously, every Friday.
